Been awhile...I haven't quite recovered from another international move (I'm beginning to wonder if I will ever????). And life for the K! (besides a whole lot of really boring homemaking and setting up house and life details) has been all about football and forcing a pre-teen boy to do his homework. Okay, so I'll stop whining and make my post....
Wanted to pass these links on while i was catching up on emails and putting them over in the links column.
Met Lauren Yarger at this year's CITA conference. She's a producer, and has a few blogs:
Thoughts on writing and Broadway reviews:
Additional Reviews at American Theater Web
News and Inspiration for Christian Artists
October 31, 2008
October 12, 2008
Coaching vs Telling: How to Help Others
Thanks Kim Zovak for these nuggets you love about coaching. I really have enjoyed employing some of the coaching tools I learned in the CORE COACHING course I took in Feb 2007.
“The carrot and the stick are pervasive and persuasive motivators. But if you treat people like donkeys, they will perform like donkeys.” Whitmore, Coaching for Performance, 1998, p. 100
“If people have always been told in the past, they will expect to be told. That is not the same things as preferring to be told.” Whitmore, Coaching for Performance, 1998, p. 133
For most of us, as leaders, the telling paradigm is what we have been taught and is deeply ingrained in us. To coach well we must believe in the power of listening, self-discovery and the Holy Spirit’s work in people’s lives. -Kim Zovak, October 2008.
Telling Paradigm
When you come to me for help, what you need is advice.
My value to you is in the knowledge, life experience, idea and wisdom I can convey to you in words.
You have trouble solving problems without my help.
I can quickly diagnose and solve your problem with minimal information.
If you get the right answers, you be able to change successfully.
Coaching Paradigm
When you come to me for help. What you need is someone to walk with you.
My value to you is in listening and asking questions that help you draw from your own knowledge, life experience, ideas and wisdom.
You have the resources to steward the life God has given you.
If I help you think this through, you can come up with a better solution than I can.
Successful change is more a function of support and motivation than information.
Modified from Stoltzfus, Coaching Leadership Coaching, p. 24
“The carrot and the stick are pervasive and persuasive motivators. But if you treat people like donkeys, they will perform like donkeys.” Whitmore, Coaching for Performance, 1998, p. 100
“If people have always been told in the past, they will expect to be told. That is not the same things as preferring to be told.” Whitmore, Coaching for Performance, 1998, p. 133
For most of us, as leaders, the telling paradigm is what we have been taught and is deeply ingrained in us. To coach well we must believe in the power of listening, self-discovery and the Holy Spirit’s work in people’s lives. -Kim Zovak, October 2008.
Telling Paradigm
When you come to me for help, what you need is advice.
My value to you is in the knowledge, life experience, idea and wisdom I can convey to you in words.
You have trouble solving problems without my help.
I can quickly diagnose and solve your problem with minimal information.
If you get the right answers, you be able to change successfully.
Coaching Paradigm
When you come to me for help. What you need is someone to walk with you.
My value to you is in listening and asking questions that help you draw from your own knowledge, life experience, ideas and wisdom.
You have the resources to steward the life God has given you.
If I help you think this through, you can come up with a better solution than I can.
Successful change is more a function of support and motivation than information.
Modified from Stoltzfus, Coaching Leadership Coaching, p. 24
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